I have found the circle thing. It is actually called the "silk ring of kvetching" and I have drawn my own circle. Suggest you do the same.
So here's how it works. I get to say what I like to who I like (and I have been!) and it works outwards from there. HWISO, the girls and the brothers get to say/ask/request/scream at the people in the all the circles outside of them and so on and so forth.
What does not happen is the bad stuff comes the other way. Particularly liked the phrase "lookie loos" which I found on the internet, whilst searching images. What a marvellous description….