tag:blogger.com,1999:blog-10116601321204656732024-03-14T03:05:39.461+00:00Charlotte - Chatting and ChunteringCharlotte Bevan, fierce advocate and activist, died at home January 13, 2014.
A mother of teenagers, wife of a farmer, parent advocate for parents of eating disorder patients, major contributor to the Around the Dinner Table forum, writer of short information films, Expert Carer for the Eating Disorders team at the Maudsley and Breast Cancer patient.CHARLOTTE'S RANThttp://www.blogger.com/profile/15924653828316135774noreply@blogger.comBlogger825125tag:blogger.com,1999:blog-1011660132120465673.post-21396691227198777582014-07-13T12:54:00.001+01:002014-07-13T12:54:09.085+01:00Birthday wishes<a href="https://www.charlotteshelix.net/uploads/2/2/9/4/22949234/_478810.jpg" imageanchor="1" style="clear: left; float: left; margin-bottom: 1em; margin-right: 1em;"><img border="0" src="https://www.charlotteshelix.net/uploads/2/2/9/4/22949234/_478810.jpg" /></a>Today, July 13, is Charlotte's birthday.<br />
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Please join Charlotte's friends around the world remembering her with the "<a href="https://www.charlotteshelix.net/i-choose-to-givehellip.html" target="_blank">Choose to Give" campaign supporting Charlotte's Helix</a>.<br />
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<a href="http://2.bp.blogspot.com/-CJkSN8R4-w4/U8Jyuq0nPII/AAAAAAAABQE/TDqJ3NUqPiw/s1600/5348269.jpg" imageanchor="1" style="clear: right; float: right; margin-bottom: 1em; margin-left: 1em;"><img border="0" src="http://2.bp.blogspot.com/-CJkSN8R4-w4/U8Jyuq0nPII/AAAAAAAABQE/TDqJ3NUqPiw/s1600/5348269.jpg" height="223" width="320" /></a>Charlotte's Helix is an idea hatched <a href="http://www.huffingtonpost.com/laura-collins-lystermensh/giving-my-birthday-away-t_b_3964338.html" target="_blank">exactly one year ago</a> to bring something called AN25K to the UK. For information visit the Helix site at <a href="http://www.charlotteshelix.net/">www.charlotteshelix.net</a> and twitter <a href="https://twitter.com/hashtag/an25k" target="_blank">#AN25K</a><br />
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Charlotte asked that her name be a rallying call to support this <a href="http://www.med.unc.edu/psych/eatingdisorders/our-research/angi" target="_blank">exciting research</a>, and to do it with a sense of both community and fun. "If it isn't fun let's not bother!"<br />
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Join us!<br />
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Anonymoushttp://www.blogger.com/profile/17219492984914810944noreply@blogger.com0tag:blogger.com,1999:blog-1011660132120465673.post-59069979707394463162014-02-09T12:50:00.000+00:002014-02-09T12:50:34.644+00:00Thank you<div dir="ltr" style="text-align: left;" trbidi="on">
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Thank you all for helping make Charlotte's blog to make a difference. The inspirations, the contributors and certainly the readers, without whom this blog would not have had the influence, or Charlotte sometimes the energy, to make a difference. And a significant difference it has been. </div>
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Charlotte's blog has helped individuals in difficulty, with eating disorders or cancer in the family, or with friends, or patients, or those who may have to face it in the future. She helped people seek, demand and get better care. </div>
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People credit her with saving lives, she certainly made a lot of us into better people, able to see good and do good when times are hard.</div>
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We have been educated, entertained and enthralled. </div>
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Thank you so much for the kind thoughts, cards and postings on her memorial site. Her dedication reached many people around the world and I hope her work will continue.</div>
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Charlotte and I were childhood sweethearts. We met when we were two. We did everything together and instantly fell in in love. It remained so strong throughout our time. She is irreplaceable to me. The girls and I are so proud of her and miss her terribly. We have had an enormous amount of support throughout this time.</div>
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We gave her a great send-off and party with many friends and family. I just know Charlotte would have approved and been proud of all the very generous donations to Charlotte's Helix.</div>
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<b>Special thank yous</b></div>
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To the Rev DS who gave two very special services while his wife was undergoing an operation and he got the balance spot on between rejoicing and sadness.</div>
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To the amazing Ali who has been such a support throughout the good times and the not so good. A complete rock, and is always there to bounce ideas around with. Sadly she has lost two great friends in quick succession.</div>
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To Tiffy who is terrific, just keeping my chin up and with the nicest hugs and support throughout.</div>
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To Matt and Janey the best of friends.</div>
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To Sophie S and Jane G and the east coast girlies.</div>
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To all the girls for the amazing flowers.</div>
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To Timmy and Micky and James and Alex, the kindest of family I could wish for.</div>
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and to the many friends too numerous to name.</div>
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Thank you to you all.</div>
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Chrissy and the girls.</div>
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CHARLOTTE'S RANThttp://www.blogger.com/profile/15924653828316135774noreply@blogger.com0tag:blogger.com,1999:blog-1011660132120465673.post-58056389631983039652014-01-19T12:51:00.003+00:002014-01-19T12:52:53.186+00:00ServicesServices for Charlotte Bevan are private. To pay respects to Charlotte's family, please leave messages at this online memorial site:<br />
<span style="clear: left; float: left; margin-bottom: 1em; margin-right: 1em;"><a href="http://announcements.thetimes.co.uk/obituaries/timesonline-uk/obituary.aspx?n=charlotte-bevan&pid=169119010" target="_blank"><img border="0" src="http://mi-cache.legacy.com/globalcontent/affiliatelogos/timesonline-uk.gif" /></a></span><br />
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<a href="http://www.legacy.com/guestbooks/timesonline-uk/guestbook.aspx?n=charlotte-bevan&pid=169119010&cid=full#sthash.ZPc40bRh.dpbs" target="_blank">CHARLOTTE JANE BEVAN</a><br />
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The family has asked that donations, if desired, go to Charlotte's Helix, an international project in her name, for more information please <a href="http://www.charlotteshelix.net/" target="_blank">visit the Helix website.</a>Anonymoushttp://www.blogger.com/profile/17219492984914810944noreply@blogger.com3tag:blogger.com,1999:blog-1011660132120465673.post-90291130550167130342014-01-16T15:21:00.001+00:002014-01-19T12:44:01.681+00:00ObituaryFrom The Times and Telegraph newspapers today:<br />
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CHARLOTTE BEVAN<br />
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<span style="background-color: #d9d9d9;"><a href="http://announcements.thetimes.co.uk/obituaries/timesonline-uk/obituary.aspx?n=charlotte-bevan&pid=169119010" target="_blank">Charlotte Jane, wife of Christopher and mother of Emily and Georgie, died after a courageous battle. No flowers, but donations, if desired to Charlotte's Helix.</a></span><br />
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For more information on Charlotte's Helix, an international project in her name, please <a href="http://www.charlotteshelix.net/" target="_blank">visit the Helix website.</a>Anonymoushttp://www.blogger.com/profile/17219492984914810944noreply@blogger.com0tag:blogger.com,1999:blog-1011660132120465673.post-37563535252619281942014-01-13T12:56:00.000+00:002014-01-13T12:56:11.497+00:00Charlotte Bevan<a href="http://2.bp.blogspot.com/-gjQdXV0WONI/UtPhQL87rgI/AAAAAAAABFA/pwEDnG1iN28/s1600/charlotte+in+pink+in+paris.jpg" imageanchor="1" style="clear: right; float: right; margin-bottom: 1em; margin-left: 1em;"><img border="0" src="http://2.bp.blogspot.com/-gjQdXV0WONI/UtPhQL87rgI/AAAAAAAABFA/pwEDnG1iN28/s1600/charlotte+in+pink+in+paris.jpg" height="240" width="320" /></a>Charlotte Bevan died today.<br />
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Recently, Charlotte said:<br />
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"YOU CAN DO THIS WITHOUT ME."<br />
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We're not at all sure of that, Charlotte. Not at the moment.<br />
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Now, we weep.<br />
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Laura<br />
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<br />Anonymoushttp://www.blogger.com/profile/17219492984914810944noreply@blogger.com37tag:blogger.com,1999:blog-1011660132120465673.post-5476417861213733122014-01-12T16:10:00.000+00:002014-01-12T19:21:52.634+00:00Breathe<div class="MsoNormal">
Our dear Charlotte never shies away from difficult topics.
She would not want her friends to tiptoe around on this one. <a href="http://charlotteschuntering.blogspot.com/2013/07/telling.html" target="_blank">She announced her terminal cancer diagnosis</a> and then moved forward living each day in its turn. She
told me she’d deal with it when she had to. Now, she is in her last days.</div>
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As much as we all would like to do something or say something to change the
inevitable I am reminded of the advice Charlotte gives most often and we all
need most now: “breathe.”<o:p></o:p></div>
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And then, we all know, she would laugh at all the drama and
scold the dogs for barking.<o:p></o:p></div>
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With Charlotte’s family in my heart and thoughts today,<o:p></o:p></div>
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Anonymoushttp://www.blogger.com/profile/17219492984914810944noreply@blogger.com10tag:blogger.com,1999:blog-1011660132120465673.post-34106777210191641812014-01-05T09:50:00.002+00:002014-01-05T09:52:14.977+00:00Oh Tim <div dir="ltr" style="text-align: left;" trbidi="on">
What a long night. The Oramorph had passed it's sell by date and gone over. Unfortunately, it took Chrissy three goes before he got there with a cocktail of other drugs to calm me down and send me off to sleep.<br />
<br />
I missed Tim. I missed Mickey. I missed my girls. I just yearned for Chrissy never to leave my side.<br />
<br />
I wanted my Mum.<br />
<br />
I was too tired to cry but too tired not to. I wept tearlessly for nearly an hour. And tearfully for nearly another.<br />
<br />
And then I slept.<br />
<br />
I still want my Mummy though. </div>
CHARLOTTE'S RANThttp://www.blogger.com/profile/15924653828316135774noreply@blogger.com7tag:blogger.com,1999:blog-1011660132120465673.post-78164908317872895852014-01-04T14:54:00.003+00:002014-01-04T14:54:54.191+00:00With overwhelming sadness<div dir="ltr" style="text-align: left;" trbidi="on">
I announce that Mickey has taken Tim to the airport and we have said our fond farewells. I miss him so much already and, although looking forward to seeing Mickey next weekend, I am so sad that this part of my life is now over.<br />
<br />
C</div>
CHARLOTTE'S RANThttp://www.blogger.com/profile/15924653828316135774noreply@blogger.com6tag:blogger.com,1999:blog-1011660132120465673.post-81458269103114195902013-12-31T20:48:00.002+00:002013-12-31T20:48:54.211+00:00appreciative of the good things that happenThe good news from Charlotte's house is that she is in it!<br />
<br />
After a rough and iffy patch there, Charlotte is home from the hospital and ringing in the New Year quietly at home. She will have nursing care there. She is, by reports, accepting and in good cheer if rather fuzzy on the details.<br />
<br />
One note from brother, Tim, could be Charlotte's motto: that she is "very appreciative of the good things that happen."<br />
<br />
More news as I learn it,<br />
LauraAnonymoushttp://www.blogger.com/profile/17219492984914810944noreply@blogger.com6tag:blogger.com,1999:blog-1011660132120465673.post-73422061643127261502013-12-28T14:52:00.000+00:002013-12-28T14:52:14.813+00:00Post ChristmasI have just had word from Charlotte's family that she is in hospital. It would be best, I understand, not to contact the family at this time as they are under strain and tired. I will post if I have further news.<br />
<br />
LauraAnonymoushttp://www.blogger.com/profile/17219492984914810944noreply@blogger.com2tag:blogger.com,1999:blog-1011660132120465673.post-87581092369036144662013-12-23T05:21:00.000+00:002013-12-23T05:21:01.030+00:00Dad<div dir="ltr" style="text-align: left;" trbidi="on">
Wrote to me yesterday to complain about my lack of blogging. He wanted to know my news and for me to keep him up to date, which seemed fair enough. I also had an email from Colleen that made me laugh out loud for ages. I also got a lovely email from L in the US. So I thought I would combine all three to give you an answer and see if it helped.<br />
<br />
Firstly I am sitting Shiva for who I was and who I can never be again. This means I sit and mourn that which has gone and let others do everything for me for seven days. I quite like that idea - the lack of responsibility, the ability to concentrate on one's own grief, the time set aside to mourn.<br />
<br />
Colleen's email was all about her quilt, did I like it? Did I hate it? Do I no longer want it? What? How? When? Why? <br />
<br />
I love it and am awaiting instructions on how to hang it properly.<br />
<br />
Dad, I hope this explains a bit, along with the arrival of C, the lymphodema nurse who has transformed our lives but given me a long list of things to do, four Drs appointments in the hospital and a lot of exercises etc for me to start. I am knackered. Absolutely knackered.<br />
<br />
Xx</div>
CHARLOTTE'S RANThttp://www.blogger.com/profile/15924653828316135774noreply@blogger.com1tag:blogger.com,1999:blog-1011660132120465673.post-13652539695646591902013-12-18T06:33:00.002+00:002013-12-18T06:33:48.058+00:00A long day<div dir="ltr" style="text-align: left;" trbidi="on">
I took myself off some of my pills yesterday. They were some blood thinners and made me feel sick all the time. This is not helpful when trying to recover from this vile operation and all the related stress that goes with it.<br />
<br />
I went to see Ms J and HWISO's new hero, Dr S, at the hospital. It was utterly exhausting and I came home after three hours shattered but utterly terrified by Ms J's dire blood clot predictions. So I took the pill and have consequently been wide awake feeling sick since 3.30 am. Sigh.<br />
<br />
So what to do?<br />
<br />
Dr S Miss J and HWISO want me to start training for a marathon and I just want to lie in bed all day talking to Laura on Skype.<br />
<br />
I hate compromises. </div>
CHARLOTTE'S RANThttp://www.blogger.com/profile/15924653828316135774noreply@blogger.com3tag:blogger.com,1999:blog-1011660132120465673.post-67371158646912236292013-12-15T08:05:00.001+00:002013-12-15T08:05:08.895+00:00Sleeping it off<div dir="ltr" style="text-align: left;" trbidi="on">
I have often said that hospital is not a good place to recover from a illness. The endless routines, 4 hourly obs, the lights, the other patients, the drama.<br />
<br />
Returning home, I have obviously decided to "sleep it off". Hence why I managed a total of 4 hours actually awake yesterday. For those of you I promised to talk to or email or on whom (ModSquad) I fell asleep mid sentence, sorry. <br />
<br />
Still have not managed my quilt, let alone a single letter....<br />
<br />
But sleep is very good for me.<br />
<br />
Night night<br />
<br />
<br /></div>
CHARLOTTE'S RANThttp://www.blogger.com/profile/15924653828316135774noreply@blogger.com0tag:blogger.com,1999:blog-1011660132120465673.post-29604547133733126632013-12-14T05:33:00.001+00:002013-12-14T05:33:22.208+00:00Morning off<div dir="ltr" style="text-align: left;" trbidi="on">
I was going to have the morning off blogging this morning but can't let Fiona Mary down so thought I would do a short mimble.<br />
<br />
It is lovely to be home, in my own bed, having eaten delicious home cooked chicken casserole for supper. It is lovely to have my own loo. It is lovely to have my own cup of tea out of a china mug, not plastic, with biscuits, to eat when I want, to wander around without having to deal with fire doors. Oh the bliss.<br />
<br />
The house looks so Christmassy. Loving what HWISO and Em have done. Really feeling a new phase of life is starting.<br />
<br />
Hurrah. </div>
CHARLOTTE'S RANThttp://www.blogger.com/profile/15924653828316135774noreply@blogger.com2tag:blogger.com,1999:blog-1011660132120465673.post-73434211534907537442013-12-13T18:20:00.003+00:002013-12-13T18:20:58.762+00:00Home<div dir="ltr" style="text-align: left;" trbidi="on">
Oh my lord I never thought I would get here so I am overly thrilled to be home. The journey was painful, HWISO has fussed, I have loved Uhu and vaguely waved at the other two and I am home.<br />
<br />
I love my home more than anywhere else in the world. I would rather be here than on the most exotic island. I want to just stay here now.<br />
<br />
That does not preclude HWISO from planning emergency route to hospital and I am loving that he has got us walkie talkies. Such fun!!</div>
CHARLOTTE'S RANThttp://www.blogger.com/profile/15924653828316135774noreply@blogger.com8tag:blogger.com,1999:blog-1011660132120465673.post-23054269325762739802013-12-13T14:41:00.001+00:002013-12-13T14:41:30.705+00:00Stitched up<div dir="ltr" style="text-align: left;" trbidi="on">
So Miss A says I can go home if I let "the boys" put in another couple of stitches to keep the drain in. The boys are her registrars and are grown up and lovely. Anyways, I agreed and after much impressive knowledge of hospital bedside equipment, (if you want the overhead light on full, switch button to "Off"position), new stitches,with the aid of local anawhatsit were put in.<br />
<br />
I am too exhausted to get dressed just now and demonstrate my prowess with the Zimmer Frame to the physiotherapist so have retired to bed in a naked but for a sheet heap.<br />
<br />
What is so refreshing is that after over two weeks of everyone being too frightened to prescribe aqueous cream for the skin rubbed raw by the left-over stitches, it was lovely the way Miss A gave instructions and didn't feel the need to over control.<br />
<br />
I am hoping the family will follow Miss A's example when I get home. </div>
CHARLOTTE'S RANThttp://www.blogger.com/profile/15924653828316135774noreply@blogger.com0tag:blogger.com,1999:blog-1011660132120465673.post-68205202530074553722013-12-13T08:16:00.001+00:002013-12-13T08:16:08.686+00:00Christmas coming early <div dir="ltr" style="text-align: left;" trbidi="on">
Oh the joy of being home. Having had Em over on Wednesday, I then had a lovely hour with G yesterday, hearing about her life, her boyfriend and managing, even from my hospital bed, to fix her phone.<br />
<br />
At the same time,HWISO and G had managed to find my dad wandering the corridors, whilst my stepmother was having an assessment for her suspected stroke. So he came up too and chatted away. It was slightly surreal.<br />
<br />
Then Darling Christine came bearing choccies and smelliest and wondrous smiles in the afternoon. A tough session with Occupational Therapy resulted in a grump which was lightened by the arrival of Rebecca.<br />
<br />
I credit Rebecca with starting the lymph draining from my hand a week ago when she came and massaged it. I said this to Miss A yesterday. Miss A did then point out I was lucky because any sudden changes in the amount of bodily fluid can kill you. So whenBex offered to bring her cream and massage my hand again I had to reluctantly say no. I explained why. She went into meltdown<br />
<br />
"I could have killed you," she said.<br />
<br />
"Through kindness," I said. "That makes it ok!!"</div>
CHARLOTTE'S RANThttp://www.blogger.com/profile/15924653828316135774noreply@blogger.com0tag:blogger.com,1999:blog-1011660132120465673.post-76372984889047351762013-12-12T10:06:00.003+00:002013-12-12T10:06:49.408+00:00Done<div dir="ltr" style="text-align: left;" trbidi="on">
Showered with antibacterial, hair washed, dried, dressed and back in bed.<br />
<br />
Phew<br />
<br />
What a brave girl. </div>
CHARLOTTE'S RANThttp://www.blogger.com/profile/15924653828316135774noreply@blogger.com1tag:blogger.com,1999:blog-1011660132120465673.post-26766052028262795242013-12-12T08:42:00.002+00:002013-12-12T08:42:32.110+00:00Why I am scarred<div dir="ltr" style="text-align: left;" trbidi="on">
So I have this MRSA right and need to shower every day with antibacterial stuff. This morning, I decided to get done early before either a) the hot water went on the blink again: or. B) all the peeps who are coming to see me this morning arrived.<br />
<br />
I got myself undressed, found new Clothes, gathered a towel and then completely ran out of energy. I collapsed stark naked back into bed and after about 10 mins managed to cover my modesty and stop dry gulping. I had lost my call bell and felt way too humiliated to ask for any help. So I whimpered to myself for over an hour before someone stuck their head round to see how I was.<br />
<br />
Of course the staff here were lovely and kind and listened to my fears about not being able to cope at home. I even plucked up enough courage to ask my breakfast lady to butter my toast, which she did willingly, unlike at Basildon.<br />
<br />
I am still afraid (and would much rather have Tim, than any other person except HWISO looking after me) but your comments and love and support have bolstered me.<br />
<br />
Shower attempt 2 coming up. </div>
CHARLOTTE'S RANThttp://www.blogger.com/profile/15924653828316135774noreply@blogger.com0tag:blogger.com,1999:blog-1011660132120465673.post-9877468284438620822013-12-12T05:18:00.001+00:002013-12-12T05:18:12.351+00:00In and out<div dir="ltr" style="text-align: left;" trbidi="on">
It has been a surreal 24 hours. So many lovely visits from my previous teams all over the hospital. The lovely sisters on the two surgical wards I'm on now, the MacMillian team, the Breast Care team,, Dr W , the lovely Miss A, my surgeon, em on her way back from schools. In between, I slept I was totally exhausted.after my big "removal" day.<br />
<br />
Jane wants me to go home tomorrow. I am petrified. I lost all confidence in my ability to care for myself whilst down in Basildon and have become very institutionalised over the past four weeks. I am utterly terrified. </div>
CHARLOTTE'S RANThttp://www.blogger.com/profile/15924653828316135774noreply@blogger.com1tag:blogger.com,1999:blog-1011660132120465673.post-44517036991893520282013-12-11T10:46:00.001+00:002013-12-11T10:46:44.417+00:00Home..<div dir="ltr" style="text-align: left;" trbidi="on">
I don't care that the West Suffolk is housed in a building well past it's use by date. Or that the paint is peeling and cracking. Or that the windows don't shut properly. Or that I am once again in a side ward on my own. Or that the day is conducted to a background of drilling and hammering as the workmen set to on the roof above.<br />
<br />
To be back within ten minutes of home brings indescribable comfort, knowing that I won't die in Pylonia, as my brothers call it. (The main farming crop of Essex being pylons).<br />
<br />
It was an interesting experience being in a modern specialist, purpose built hospital but at the end of it all, my overwhelming impression is that of a hospital run along 1984 lines, not a member of our beloved NHS.<br />
<br />
To be back among friends, including KL, is joy.<br />
<br />
Last but not least a huge thank you to Suzie, who broke down the impenetrable walls of CTC yesterday to deliver much needed food, cheer and normality. Love you. </div>
CHARLOTTE'S RANThttp://www.blogger.com/profile/15924653828316135774noreply@blogger.com3tag:blogger.com,1999:blog-1011660132120465673.post-23576424321688255602013-12-10T16:00:00.000+00:002013-12-10T16:00:13.750+00:00Nee-naw chariot arrives!<div class="separator" style="clear: both; text-align: center;">
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<br />Anonymoushttp://www.blogger.com/profile/17219492984914810944noreply@blogger.com0tag:blogger.com,1999:blog-1011660132120465673.post-75331080813204373192013-12-10T12:52:00.004+00:002013-12-10T12:52:57.489+00:00Bed: check!<span style="font-family: Helvetica; font-size: 18px;">"SHE HAS GOT THE BED! Moving in 2 hours in a "nee naw", as she put it"</span>Anonymoushttp://www.blogger.com/profile/17219492984914810944noreply@blogger.com1tag:blogger.com,1999:blog-1011660132120465673.post-73516213115316042612013-12-10T05:39:00.000+00:002013-12-10T05:39:52.648+00:00Snappy Black Gloves<div dir="ltr" style="text-align: left;" trbidi="on">
Just after being given the devastating news that I wasn't leaving for home just yet, Mrs B (of moving house fame) and Mrs G arrived to help "sort this out".<br />
<br />
Whilst Ali tackled the nurses about Mrsa, what it meant, why I wasn't being isolated and being left to wander around a surgical ward, Jayne soothed Chrissy on the phone, soothed me and fed me Courgette and Lemon cake.<br />
<br />
I love them both dearly.<br />
<br />
Just saying<br />
<br />
(Although the snap of those gloves still frightens me, Mrs B.)</div>
CHARLOTTE'S RANThttp://www.blogger.com/profile/15924653828316135774noreply@blogger.com0tag:blogger.com,1999:blog-1011660132120465673.post-21592622915492250322013-12-10T04:39:00.002+00:002013-12-10T04:39:56.935+00:00Hot, hot, hot<div dir="ltr" style="text-align: left;" trbidi="on">
So it's December, one of our coldest months. I know I am in hospital and should be kept warm but should I be lying here, with the window open, only a thin sheet for cover and be sweating?<br />
<br />
No, of course not but welcome to the Basildon CTC purpose built hospital - opened by Gordon Brown, where there is no WiFi, the plugs are in the wrong place, there is a lack of basic equipment but the lights are good enough to operate under in the bedrooms. I could go on but need to wipe my brow, as can hardly see for the steam....<br />
<br />
Meanwhile, let's continue to underpay our nurses, feed our patients slop (42p per day is the budget) and overpay for light bulbs that are unnecessary. The CTC looks good, even though painted in the generic NHS colours. The staff are still over and under valued. The plaque in the front celebrating Gordon's visit to open the centre obviously gets polished every day.<br />
<br />
So what's wrong with the NHS? <br />
<br />
Priorities.<br />
<br />
And not enough nurses in charge. </div>
CHARLOTTE'S RANThttp://www.blogger.com/profile/15924653828316135774noreply@blogger.com0