tag:blogger.com,1999:blog-1011660132120465673.post376944220828071463..comments2023-09-08T19:32:19.540+01:00Comments on Charlotte - Chatting and Chuntering: What's the worst thing to ask......CHARLOTTE'S RANThttp://www.blogger.com/profile/15924653828316135774noreply@blogger.comBlogger5125tag:blogger.com,1999:blog-1011660132120465673.post-81248359909281380302012-05-15T15:34:26.320+01:002012-05-15T15:34:26.320+01:00A distraction from one's own cancer chemo mise...A distraction from one's own cancer chemo misery is quite often welcome. A present to a dear friend is always cathartic.<br /><br />Ditch the guilt. You did all the right thing. xxCHARLOTTE'S RANThttps://www.blogger.com/profile/15924653828316135774noreply@blogger.comtag:blogger.com,1999:blog-1011660132120465673.post-81490782018647694862012-05-15T15:08:51.349+01:002012-05-15T15:08:51.349+01:00PS I don't mean I feel tremendous guilt as a r...PS I don't mean I feel tremendous guilt as a result of reading your lists ;) I have been feeling it ever since yesterday, completely independently!!!! ;)Bev Mattocks Osbornehttps://www.blogger.com/profile/02353718855920959097noreply@blogger.comtag:blogger.com,1999:blog-1011660132120465673.post-5345581785610840072012-05-15T15:07:52.426+01:002012-05-15T15:07:52.426+01:00But what should one do, as in the case of my frien...But what should one do, as in the case of my friend Sue, when the person you are visiting / trying to help insists on turning the focus round to you (i.e. me) all the time? You get the crazy "Your problems are worse than mine..." / "No, YOUR problems are worse than mine"... type scenario. <br /><br />And when they INSIST that they don't need any help, no matter how much you ask if you can pick up anything from the supermarket or whatever. And when you DO bring food round, they insist on giving you a gift in return? Aaarrrggghhh, my friend Sue was sooooo frustrating in that she just wouldn't let me help and insisted on doing everything within her power to help undeserving ME. I feel tremendous guilt now...Bev Mattocks Osbornehttps://www.blogger.com/profile/02353718855920959097noreply@blogger.comtag:blogger.com,1999:blog-1011660132120465673.post-33181359217770660532012-05-15T15:07:48.112+01:002012-05-15T15:07:48.112+01:00This is wonderful to know! I'm saving your lis...This is wonderful to know! I'm saving your list for future reference.KrisBnoreply@blogger.comtag:blogger.com,1999:blog-1011660132120465673.post-75614870243349486702012-05-15T14:07:47.862+01:002012-05-15T14:07:47.862+01:00I really like these lists; although I would say th...I really like these lists; although I would say that there is inter-individual variation in responses to cancer diagnosis/treatment and what helps one person doesn't necessarily help another.<br /><br />I know that when my Dad had cancer (and associated treatment), what he HATED was someone asking him to talk about his feelings. He HATED the sympathetic "how are you's?". What he hated most was those people who came to see him and said idiotic things like "oh dear; this isn't looking good", or "you look terrible". (Um yes. Please don't rub salt into wounds, people...). <br /><br />The little practical things you mention are so important...<br /><br />You Rock, Charlotte!<br /><br />xxxAnonymousnoreply@blogger.com