Charlotte Bevan, fierce advocate and activist, died at home January 13, 2014.
A mother of teenagers, wife of a farmer, parent advocate for parents of eating disorder patients, major contributor to the Around the Dinner Table forum, writer of short information films, Expert Carer for the Eating Disorders team at the Maudsley and Breast Cancer patient.
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Monday, 13 January 2014
Charlotte Bevan died today.
Recently, Charlotte said:
"YOU CAN DO THIS WITHOUT ME."
We're not at all sure of that, Charlotte. Not at the moment.
We do indeed weep. The world has lost a true angel.ReplyDelete
Such sad news. She will be missed by those who knew her personally and those (like me) who didn't. Thinking of Charlotte's family.ReplyDelete
I didn't know Charlotte but I read her blog avidly. Her wisdom and common sense, especially in the face of everything thrown at her, are a constant inspiration. All of my thoughts are with her family and friends.ReplyDelete
Bless her...I didn't know her either but her character shone through every word she wrote and all that she did. Praying for all those who love her - and that the work she began may flourish in tribute to her.ReplyDelete
Go well, Charlotte - and thank you.
The memory of Charlotte's verve and humor, and her commitment and generosity to those of us around the world who needed her will always stay with me. My deeply felt condolences go out to her family and friends.ReplyDelete
I am relatively new follower of Charlotte but in the brief time I have been following her I have been inspired by her kindness and wisdom. My thoughts are with her family and friends.ReplyDelete
I hope that Charlotte's entire family sees this blog, sees what a blessing their daughter, wife, mother, sister was to so many of us, near and far. Some of us throw our pebbles in the water and watch the ripples - Charlotte threw hers in and her ripples became tidal waves, traveling over oceans, carrying her unflinching honesty, her amazing sense of humor, her unyielding spirit and, most of all, her love. I am a richer person for having known her (if only over the internet). Her impact is felt by so many. I hope this is a small comfort to those of you who mourn her now.ReplyDelete
My deepest sympathies. No words.ReplyDelete
I'm so sorry! My thoughts and prayers for her family and loved ones.ReplyDelete
Sending so much love to all those close to Charlotte. I have followed and watched in awe and amazement at the wonderful things she has accomplished and the incredible spirit she has shown.ReplyDelete
I will make sure my helix forms are sent off this week. You have done so much for so many. I've spoken to my parents about you and how fab you are too.
I don't like the whole 'rest in peace' thing, I think party hard and enjoy your time in heaven, because that's the only place you could have gone. I bet they even gave you angel wings and a red carpet upon entering, just make sure you shine that halo every now and again!
Nothing I can say will dampen the hurt, but I send my love, I am so sorry.
Becky - NewFoundWings xxxx
All my love to those who are mourning this terribly sad loss, especially Charlotte's dear family. I've only known Charlotte through her inspiring blog and can only imagine what a wonderful person she would have been to meet in person. I thank her for all her pioneering work with Charlotte's Helix and I believe it will be a great legacy. The spirit that she's shown throughout her battle with cancer was been inspirational, we can do this without her but it won't be the same. xxxReplyDelete
As an ATDT / FEAST "lurker," I feel I got to know Charlotte through the forums, and her wit and wisdom never ceased to amaze me. She will never know how many lives she touched. My heart goes out to her family, friends, and all those who she loved and who loved her.ReplyDelete
Crying here in the midwest US. I never met her in person, but "spoke" with her many times via email, messages, the ATDT forum and FB. She was so smart and funny and just gosh-darned helpful. And she adored my daughter, and made my daughter feel better. I am bereft for the loss of her life in so many spheres.ReplyDelete
Grieving the loss of a woman who impacted the world. Joining other friends on here from the FEAST community to mourn the loss of a friend and sending condolences and love to her family and those she fought so tirelessly for. Sat Nam.ReplyDelete
so truly and utterly sorry.ReplyDelete
I am not usually at a loss for words but I've been starring at an empty comment box for a good 10 minutes, unsure of what to say. So yes, what everyone else said. I started crying when I read the post :(. I'm saddened I'll never get to meet her but very, very happy that I did know and interact with her online. She had a big impact on me (kicking myself for not saying this earlier, ugh), particularly in busting my preconceived and incorrect notions of ATDT/FEAST/FBT-promoting crowd. I always, always appreciated her wit and her dedication to ED advocacy, particularly because it as so measured, rational, and non-dogmatic.ReplyDelete
Like many, I wept as I read this... I adored Charlotte... She was one of the most selfless people I know and despite terrible illness, still battled on to help others. She was (still is) a dear friend to so many. Getting to know Charlotte was a privilege. My thoughts are with her family. Rest in Peace darling xxxReplyDelete
Always I have hoped that never would not be happen. I never met Charlotte, but when i have read her blog, quickly i understood what special person she was. My condolences.ReplyDelete
This has devastated so many people who never even met Charlotte that I cannot begin to imagine what it is like for her family. I join the voices in saying how amazing Charlotte was, and what a difference she made to me, despite having never even spoken to her. Charlotte: you were one very special lady. My thoughts and prayers are with all your family right now. XxxReplyDelete
Oh Charlotte, what a difference you made to my daughter and my life. You gave me the kick up the bum I needed to grow up and cope with the challenges each day brings. You gave me such confidence with your energy and determination. I always felt you had time for me whatever was going on for you. You are an inspiration. My heart goes out to your family. What a wonderful legacy you leave behind you. Your family should be so proud of what you have done with you life and the way you lived it. You will be truly missed.ReplyDelete
Aussie condolences to Charlottes Family & friendsReplyDelete
Charlotte, I am just beginning to learn how to really wear my big boy pants when it comes to fighting for my daughter. Thank you for all of the great advice and humor posted here and for your tireless work in the war against ED. You will be missed by many!. My family's heartfelt condolences go out to your family.ReplyDelete
I never physically met Charlotte, but cyberspace removes all such obstacles and thanks to chats Twitter and Facebook I was introduce to her incredible strong spirit and selflessness. Hugs and comfort to all her loved ones... <3 xxxxReplyDelete
Dearest Charlotte, oh what to say about someone so special, a friend I've never met, but such a special friend. You helped me save our daughter, thank you from the bottom of my heart. Thank you for your laughter, stubbornness and wisdom. I will miss you so much. Sending much love to your family. Martine and Gordon xoxoxoxoxoReplyDelete
A day of sadness and tears for the loss of our mentor and cheerleader. I know that she will continue to guide us along our way. We will never forget her words of encouragement and love to help us out of the trenches. I was so very blessed to have her guiding me through the most horrific time of my life. My condolences to her family, they are in my thoughts and prayers.ReplyDelete
A common theme seems to be how much we loved a women we may never have met in person. I loved her blog and especially her humor. I found her an inspiration and I can't help but cry. I hope that there will be a post that will direct us to whatever cause Charlotte would want us to support in her name. My heart goes out to her family.ReplyDelete
Charlotte saved my daughters life. We hadn't spoken for a few years. I will be forever grateful to Charlotte. Such a sad sad loss. My thoughts and prayers go out to her family and friends. XReplyDelete
So sorry to hear this!ReplyDelete
I'd engaged in many conversations with Charlotte-- some where we had opposing viewpoints- but we were always ultimately on the same 'side', and I always saw her as a tremendously passionate, caring individual with great wisdom to share.
My deepest sympathies to Charlotte's friends and family, and all who knew her. She will be missed.
Charlotte gave an example of how to live, of how to give life, to spread and share life -- she was everything that ED tries to destroy and negate. She also gave an example -- that I am still struggling to comprehend -- of how to let life go, with bravery, humility and truth. When I think of her today, I can hear her voice, her laughter, see her sparkling eyes. I am in dazzled awe at the radiance of her courage in the face of suffering and loss. She was so funny, so intelligent, frank, courageous. She treated everyone she encountered as her equal and met them on their own terms -- whether friend or foe, top professor or weeping broken parent. She is one of the most remarkable individuals I have ever come across. (My little dog -- whom she did so much to help on his way in life -- loved her immediately and ecstatically. His heart leapt when she came through our door. Dumb creatures have an amazing intuition when it comes to extraordinary goodness like Charlotte's.) In the sorrow of loss, I am filled with gratitude for the privilege of having known her, learned from her, laughed and cried with her. She made us all stronger and more alive, I truly believe.ReplyDelete
Charlotte was the angel of the ED world, she reached out to so many of us struggling parents and caregivers to help us find the inner strength and confidence that we could do what was needed to get our children healthy. Her advise was given with wisdom, wit, and a whole lot of love and care. She has touched the world over, and this mama is going to miss her blog, and her posts, but will REMEMBER her sound advise and strength. We know she is flying with the angels, peace be with you Charlotte, you have earned your rest.ReplyDelete
For Charlotte's dear family, thank you so much for sharing her with all of us, it was a gift that you gave us all. With much gratitude.
Our love and prayers are with a very special Riddlesworth girl who illuminated the world and with her family.ReplyDelete
I hope Charlotte's family see from all our messages the extent to which Charlotte contributed to so many people, and I hope they are proud of having such a mother, wife, sister. I would have loved to meet Charlotte. Her words remain, and the ripples from all those starfish she helped back into the sea.ReplyDelete
I was at school (Gresham's) with Charlotte way back in the 1980s and lost touch with her 30 years ago, but heard of her death from another school friend yesterday and have been feeling so sad and shocked since. I remember her as having so much life and energy; how can she have died?ReplyDelete
I've just stumbled upon this blog and it doesn't surprise me at all that she has done so much and touched so many people's lives. I wish I'd known all this before now..
From the moment Charlotte arrived at school she was one of the "faces" - tall. loud, glamorous, funny.. you always knew when she was in the room. She was also warm, kind, great fun and a prime giggling companion - we were always sloping off to the woods for a smoke - and, beneath the apparent self-possession, very vulnerable and a bit of a lost soul. I don't think we were aware of the word then, but I see now what empathy she had, and it's wonderful that she went on to put it to such good use.
And I think I thought I'd always see her again one day...
Raising a glass to you Charlotte xx
What can I say that hasnt already been said except, as a Marie Curie girl I was privileged to have spent one very short night caring for Charlotte last week.What an impact she made on me.Smiling in the face of adversity. Inspirational doesn't come close. .....I send Chris and the girls. love and the strength it will take to get through this.ReplyDelete
I didn't know Charlotte, but she gave me immeasurable support on the Around the Dinner Table Forum. She was one of those women who accomplishes so much good that it leaves one in total awe. The world is a far, far better place for having had Charlotte in it. Her determination, spirit, and wonderfulness will be missed so much.ReplyDelete
We should all only hope that when we leave this world we leave having made such a profound impact on so many. I did not know Charlotte personally but I feel like I did. She reached out to me in my darkest hour and helped me see that I could fight back against the ED controlling my daughter. I have my girl back now Charlotte and I thank you.ReplyDelete
I've had this tab open for a long long time...pretty much ever since Charlotte started chatting and chuntering. It's hard to imagine closing it, so it will remain open as a reminder to keep throwing those starfish, waving pompoms and passing out Big Girl Pants. You know we will, Charlotte!ReplyDelete