"Local FT said he wanted to work with us the family on systemic issues so that ' the very real risk of relapse' is avoided. 'My blood started to boil and I let him carry on about issues with our son, he is an opinionated 16yo.
I heard... We are flagging up that if B relapses it will be the family's fault'."
What matters is that eating disorders are biologically based mental illnesses that are nobody's choice and can kill.
I am also unsure how CAHMS language - "the family continue to engage in such a fragmented and disorganised" "systemic issues within the family" - and all the rest, can be read in any *other* way, than putting "the family" at fault.
But here is the main issue. Of the CAHMS multi-disciplinary team and The Family, ONE of those groups are trained clinical professionals, whose JOB it is to handle and treat children with mental health diagnoses. THAT is the group who failed to do their job, if over the course of 15mo, the child got worse, instead of better.